Tuesday, 28 February 2017

Change your Mind Change your Brain


If happiness is an inner state, influenced by external conditions but not dependent on them, how can we achieve it? Ricard will examine the inner and outer factors that increase or diminish our sense of well-being, dissect the underlying mechanisms of happiness, and lead us to a way of looking at the mind itself based on his book, Happiness: A Guide to Life's Most Important Skill and from the research in neuroscience on the effect of mind-training on the brain.

Speaker Bio: Matthieu Ricard, a gifted scientist turned Buddhist monk, is a best selling author, translator, and photographer. He has lived and studied in the Himalayas for the last 35 years...

Life a Blessing


Learn from Mistakes


Know Your Worth


Friday, 24 February 2017

Spiritual Maturity




What is spiritual maturity? 

1. Spiritual Maturity is when you stop trying to change others, ...instead focus on changing yourself. 

2. Spiritual Maturity is when you accept people as they are. 

3. Spiritual Maturity is when you understand everyone is right in their own perspective. 

4. Spiritual Maturity is when you learn to "let go". 

5. Spiritual Maturity is when you are able to drop "expectations" from a relationship and give for the sake of giving. 

6. Spiritual Maturity is when you understand whatever you do, you do for your own peace. 

7. Spiritual Maturity is when you stop proving to the world, how intelligent you are. 

8. Spiritual Maturity is when you don't seek approval from others. 

9. Spiritual Maturity is when you stop comparing with others. 

10. Spiritual Maturity is when you are at peace with yourself. 

11. Spiritual Maturity is when you are able to differentiate between "need" and "want" and are able to let go of your wants. 

& last but most meaningful !

12. You gain Spiritual Maturity when you stop attaching "happiness" to material things !! 

"Wishing all a happy Spiritually matured life.

(Author Unknown) 
(Taken from a Whatsapp Message)

Destiny








Sunday, 19 February 2017

The Power of Play


The Power of Play | Charlie Hoehn | TEDxSantoDomingo 

 

Why are so many people in the world burned out at what they do?
I felt dead inside and had no idea how to fix it.
I started to incorporate play in my life and in one mont I was back to normal.

If you've never Googled the phrase "cure anxiety," then you might not know that the #1 result in the world was written by Charlie Hoehn. Millions of people have read his articles on mental wellness, and his bestselling book 'Play It Away: A Workaholic's Cure for Anxiety' was called "The cure to your stress!" by Tony Robbins. Charlie has keynoted at military bases around the U.S., including the Pentagon, on how to prevent soldiers from committing suicide.

Previously, he worked for three years with the author of The 4-Hour Workweek, Tim Ferriss. Charlie helped edit and launch The 4-Hour Body, which hit #1 on the New York Times bestseller list and sold millions of copies. Charlie‘s work has been featured on NPR, Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, and many others.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx

The Free Mindfulness Project


Welcome to The Free Mindfulness Project - Home to a growing collection of free-to-download mindfulness meditation exercises. Interest in mindfulness resources is clearly increasing, and as of February 2017 we surpassed 1.1 million visits to the site! It is lovely to hear how people across the world are benefiting from practicing mindfulness.

The aim of The Free Mindfulness Project is to provide easy and free access to mindfulness meditation exercises by inviting the wider mindfulness community to share their resources here. The focus of this site is mindfulness as practiced in mindfulness-based stress reduction (MBSR), mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) and other closely related approaches. 

What is mindfulness?

Mindfulness can be described as paying attention to what 

we are experiencing in this moment, and doing so with a 

particular attitude: One of curiosity, openness, acceptance 

and warmth. Simply observing what we are experiencing, 

right now, and bringing a warm curiosity to whatever arises.  

 

In formal mindfulness practices our intention is often to centre our awareness on one particular experience, such as the sensations involved in breathing or the sounds that we can hear, or to widen our awareness to incorporate a range of experiences simultaneously, or to watch where our attention goes without getting caught up in particular experiences. Mindfulness is also something that we can bring to any aspect of our day to day life, cultivating the same qualities of curiosity, acceptance and warmth.  

 

Check the wonderful website

Destiny










Saturday, 18 February 2017

Defeat - a State of Mind


Be Ready for the Opportunity


Book Review: “The Road Less Travelled” by Dr. Scott Peck"






“The Road Less Travelled” by Dr. Scott Peck, a psychotherapist sheds light on the psychology of love, traditional values and spiritual growth. The author explains the emotional pain and suffering that people go through irrespective of their age, experience, wisdom and upbringing. Using numerous examples of his patients, the author gives the reader an insight to why people suffer psychologically in the first place; what’s really going wrong?


Meanwhile he discusses the four important key points that are necessary for one to achieve harmony in life – delaying gratification, taking the responsibility, dedication to reality and withholding truth. These four are narrated in a strange but appealing fashion. Someone who can delay gratification has the key to psychological maturity, whereas impulsiveness is a mental habit. Most large problems are the result of not facing up to earlier, smaller problems, of failing to be ‘dedicated to the truth’. Another great mistake most people make is believing that problems will go away of their own accord. This is utter lack of responsibility will damages them in other ways. Discipline is not only about ‘growing up’ in terms of accepting reality, but in the appreciation of the tremendous range of choices that exist.


Then, he defines how one’s psychology is molded giving utmost importance to parenting. Later on, the book attempts to define the true meaning of love, quite contrasting with its conventional notion, and how it leads one to make serious effort to overcome the problems lying within his mind. Having explained all these things eloquently, it moves to the discussion of religion and thence God’s grace.


In a nutshell the author has made a good attempt to bridge the gap between the scientific and spiritual world views with reasoning and pure intellect. This self-help book is full of new life changing insights.


 “Once you admit that life is difficult, the fact is no longer of 

great consequence. Once you accept responsibility, you can 

make better choices.” – The Road Less Travelled

Friday, 17 February 2017

Is it Possible to Change Your Personality Type?



I’ve always fancied myself as one of those girls who just ooze confidence and charisma. You know the type I mean – those who glide effortlessly into a room, make the first three people they come across crease in hysterics and can comfortably strike up a conversation with virtually anyone and everyone.


Unfortunately it’s not working out so well for me. I was painfully shy as a child, and even though now I am somewhat able to cope in socially scary situations, deep down I still have a mild panic attack when faced with a room full of new people.


I am — and most probably will always be — an introvert with a dollop of extrovert. Like everyone, my personality is comprised of a mixture of traits. Some of these I am happy with, and others not so much.


But if I really wanted to change my personality type would it be possible? Or am I stuck exactly as I am forever, whether I like it or not?


Type A vs. Type B


Before we can attempt to answer that question, I think it is important to think about what personality types are.  The simplest way of examining personality types is to split them into two categories: Type A and Type B.

This theory was first introduced by a couple of cardiologists (Friedman and Rosenman, 1976) who observed their patient’s behaviour in the waiting room. They could divide them into type A’s – those who generally were more impatient, and type B’s – those who were a little more relaxed.

These are some of the traits now associated with the two personality types:
  • Type A – more competitive, outgoing, aggressive, sense of time urgency, ambitious, impatient.
  • Type B – typically more ‘relaxed’ traits. Creativity and imagination.

Of course, you’re probably thinking there is a massive flaw here already. People are overwhelmingly complex beings, and the idea that we can divide everyone into either type A or type B is naïve at best. Most people will find they have a mixture of personality types taken from both categories.


Meyers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)

Another psychological theory of personality is the Meyers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). The MBTI questionnaire is still used today in situations as diverse as marital counselling and executive development. That and the fact it places individuals in one of 16 personality types (rather than the above described two) may straight off give it a little more oomph.
The technique breaks your personality down into 4 dimensions:
  • Focus of attention: Extraversion (E) or Introversion (I)
  • The way you take in information: Sensing (S) or Intuition (N)
  • How you make decisions: Thinking (T) or feeling (F)
  • How you deal with the world – Judging (J) or Perceiving (P)
There are 16 different combinations that can be made from the letters. For instance, if you are an extrovert, who uses intuition, makes decisions by feeling and judges the world around you, your personality type is ENFJ.


How can we change our personality traits?

  1. Fake it till you make it.
  1. Stop Labelling yourself.
  1. Try new things.
  1. Meditation.
  1. Reflect on your new personality.

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Sarah Hunter is a psychology graduate who has spent the last few years working in the student support sector. Having recently moved to Toronto from the UK, she hopes to use the opportunity to follow her dreams of becoming a writer. Find her at: https://scribblesfromoverseas.com/

Be Ready for the Teacher


Be open minded. The Teacher may come in any form, not necessarily in human form...

All Comes From Within


Thursday, 16 February 2017

5 Powerful Rituals to Become More Resilient



Every now and then, life punches below the belt. How can you be resilient when times get tough and you feel bad?

There are all kinds of strategies for feeling happier and showing grit. But most of them are very conscious and deliberate. And the truth is, most of what we do every day isn’t all that conscious and deliberate.

Ever since Freud, we’ve known that a lot of our behavior is unconscious. If that’s the case, shouldn’t you leverage your unconscious mind to get through the tough times? Only makes sense, right?
Now I don’t know much about my unconscious mind. (I mean, it’s unconscious, right?) So I called an expert on the subject…
Tim Wilson is a professor of psychology at the University of Virginia and author of Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious and Redirect: Changing the Stories We Live By.
 Tim has some, well, mind-blowing insights about how your brain really works. You’re gonna learn a lot about how that grey matter functions, how to fix it when it can’t cope, and you’ll even find out how to get to know yourself better to avoid future messes, how to stay happy when things suck, and even how to become a better human being in the process. (Now how’s that for value?)
But I do need to make a disclaimer first: I’m gonna have to shake your confidence in yourself a bit before we fix it. We need to correct some myths — and some of the truths are a little disturbing. Hang with me. We’ll get you back to the Shire, Frodo.
Alright, forget what you think you know about how your mind works. You’re wrong about a lot of stuff. In fact, you’re wrong about you…
 
Read the full article Here


Sunday, 12 February 2017

Outliers: The Story of Success Book Summary & Review



Outliers: The Story of Success
Malcolm Gladwell


Outliers: The Story of Success is the third non-fiction book written by Malcolm Gladwell and published by Little, Brownand Company. In Outliers, Gladwell examines the factors that contribute to high levels of success.

Generally well received by critics, Outliers was considered more personal than Gladwell's other works, and some reviews commented on how much Outliers felt like an autobiography. Reviews praised the connection that Gladwell draws between his own background and the rest of the publication to conclude the book.

Outliers has two parts: "Part One: Opportunity" contains five chapters, and "Part Two: Legacy" has four. The book also contains an Introduction and Epilogue. 'Outliers' is defined by Gladwell as people who do not fit into our normal understanding of achievement.

Outliers deals with exceptional people, especially those who are smart, rich, and successful, and those who operate at the extreme outer edge of what is statistically plausible. In the introduction, Gladwell lays out the purpose of Outliers: "It's not enough to ask what successful people are like… It is only by asking where they are from that we can unravel the logic behind who succeeds and who doesn't." 

Throughout the publication, he discusses how family, culture, and friendship each play a role in an individual's success, and he constantly asks whether successful people deserve the praise that we give them.

Outliers asserts that success depends on the idiosyncrasies of the selection process used to identify talent just as much as it does on the athletes' natural abilities.


We place such a high value on individuals and their “self-made” achievements that we often willfully ignore other factors.
The “self-made man” is a myth – a very, very popular myth.

Once you reach a certain threshold, increased abilities no longer help you succeed. Though innate qualities are important, being 6’10” tall doesn’t guarantee you a million-dollar basketball contract, and having a sky-high IQ doesn’t automatically mean a Nobel Prize. Why is this? Qualities that foster success – like height in basketball players or quantitative intelligence in mathematicians – have a “threshold.” For example, after reaching a certain height, an extra couple of inches don’t make that much difference for a basketball player.

Though talent is certainly a key ingredient in the recipe for success, hard work seems to be at least as important, if not more so. Bill Gates spent a lot of time learning computer programming. The Beatles spent a lot of time on stage. Though they were also extraordinarily talented individuals, it was extensive practice that made them truly world-class. To achieve world-class mastery at anything, studies show you need to spend a “critical minimum” amount of time – around 10,000 hours – practicing.


Gladwell explains that reaching the 10,000-Hour Rule, which he considers the key to success in any field, is simply a matter of practicing a specific task that can be accomplished with 20 hours of work a week for 10 years.


Of course, not everyone has the opportunity to spend this much time practicing something. First of all, you need the opportunity to start early so you can get in as much practice as possible and secure a head start on the competition. Also, you or your family has to have the resources to support you; it’s hard to find time for work or chores when you’re spending 40 hours a week trying to become a world-famous violinist.
Depending on what you want to do, you might also need access to expensive state-of-the-art equipment.

Encouragement from family, friends, coaches, teachers and kind strangers you meet on the street helps too.
If you’re lucky, like Bill Gates or the Beatles, you’ll have all these things. However, many people don’t, so they effectively lack the opportunity to achieve world-class mastery in their chosen fields.

How you’re brought up can radically impact how successful you become. After you reach a skills “threshold,” natural abilities stop mattering in your quest for success. A far more important factor is whether you have practical intelligence. Practical intelligence is “procedural” knowledge: knowing how to interpret and work social situations to get what you want – in other words, knowing who to ask what, and when. The ability to interact with and negotiate with authority figures can help inch people closer to their goals. This knowledge is not innate.


Sociologist Annette Lareau found that wealthier parents instill in their children a feeling of “entitlement” more often than lower-class parents do. In general, they do this by paying more attention to their children, or by at least providing their children with enriching activities that promote intellectual growth. They teach their children to demand respect and to “customize” a situation to suit to their needs. In other words, they teach their kids practical intelligence.

By contrast, poorer parents are often intimidated by authority and let their children follow a pattern of “natural growth” – there’s less pushing, prodding and encouraging than in wealthier families. This means children from poorer households are less likely to be taught practical intelligence, which radically decreases their chances for success.


The key message in this book is that no man or woman is an island. Apart from talent and hard work extraordinary success is the result of an often-unlikely series of opportunities, lucky breaks and occurrences that combine to create the precise conditions that allow such achievement. Success "is not exceptional or mysterious. It is grounded in a web of advantages and inheritances, some deserved, some not, some earned, some just plain lucky". 


You can buy this book at Amazon.

Optimal Change vs. Fastest Change



 

The Paradox of Behavior Change


The natural tendency of life is to find stability. In biology we refer to this process as equilibrium or homeostasis.

For example, consider your blood pressure. When it dips too low, your heart rate speeds up and nudges your blood pressure back into a healthy range. When it rises too high, your kidneys reduce the amount of fluid in the body by flushing out urine. All the while, your blood vessels help maintain the balance by contracting or expanding as needed.

The human body employs hundreds of feedback loops to keep your blood pressure, body temperature, glucose levels, calcium levels, and many other processes at a stable equilibrium.

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Friday, 10 February 2017

Near Death Experience (NDE) of a Cancer Survivor


Anita Moorjani - 'Dying To Be Me' 
- Interview by Renate McNay

Anita worked in the corporate field before being diagnosed with terminal cancer. Four years after being diagnosed her body began shutting down. As her organs failed she entered into an extraordinary near-death experience where she realised the cause of her disease as well as waking up to who she truly is. On regaining consciousness she found her condition had improved so rapidly that she was released from hospital within weeks.

Potential n Passion


Secret of Success


Monday, 6 February 2017

'The Power Of Consciousness'


Bruce Lipton - 'The Power Of Consciousness' 

- Interview by Iain McNay


Bruce Lipton is a cellular biologist who is the author of "The Biology Of Belief" and "Spontaneous Evolution". He talks about his life, his work, and how he sees the predicament of the human race.   

Being Connected


A Zen Tale of Right and Wrong



The Pupil Who Would Be Cast Out: 

A Zen Tale of Right and Wrong


“In the kingdom of love there is no competition; there is no possessiveness or control. The more love you give away, the more love you will have.” ~ John O’Donohue

In Ancient Japan there lived a great Master Bankei, who was known across the land for his teachings. Whenever he held his meditation retreats, students from all across the country came to attend.


During one of these gatherings a pupil was caught stealing. The matter was promptly reported to Bankei with the request that the culprit be expelled. Bankei, however, ignored the case.

A few days passed, and when the same student was caught in a similar act, Bankei again disregarded the matter. This caused a lot of upset among the other students, angering them and prompting them to draw up a petition requesting the dismissal of the thief. If not adhered to, it stated, they would all leave the retreat.

Bankei read the petition and called everyone before him.

“You are wise, my brothers,” he said. “All of you who wrote this petition know what is proper. You are very clear on what is right, and what is not right. Yet this poor brother, who drove you to create and issue me this ultimatum, and who you would see cast out the doors of this retreat, does not. Who will teach him if not I?”

There was a prolonged moment of silence, during which Bankei examined closely the eyes of each of his students. They stirred uncomfortably, yet remained without speaking.

Finally, he continued. “You may all go somewhere else to study if you wish. I am going to keep him here, even if all the rest of you leave.”

Suddenly the pupil in question burst into tears, weeping uncontrollably. Slowly, a great understanding began to fall upon the rest of the students. It was clear that the tears being shed were of a genuine and cleansing nature. There was no mistaking it. All desire to steal, they knew, had vanished from their brother.

Friday, 3 February 2017

Pat Yourself for Better Health


Senior Exercise Program - Increase Circulation with Body Patting 

TaiChiHealthProducts.org presents a stimulating exercise that wakes you up while helping increase your circulation. Perfect for all ages. Join with Don Fiore in this 4-minute daily exercise routine. Great for Active Aging, Senior Fitness, a Senior Workout, and a Senior Exercise Program. The movements come from our "Easy TaiChi-Qigong" DVD that is one hour and 20 minutes with 4 parts.

Go to TaiChiHealthProducts.org and click on the "Exercise" tab for more easy-to-do daily routines.

The Golden Path

How You Can Use Buddha’s ‘The Middle Way’ To Achieve Success and Happiness In Your Life


“Life is one, said the Buddha, and the Middle Way to the end of suffering in all its forms is that which leads to the end of the illusion of separation, which enables man to see, as a fact as clear as sunlight, that all mankind, and all other forms in manifestation, are one unit, the infinitely variable appearance of an indivisible Whole.” ~ Christmas Humphreys

To properly understand ‘The Middle Way’ we must first understand that the Buddha experienced two great extremes in his path to enlightenment. Early in life, he was a sheltered prince, pampered inside a palace with all manner of sensual delights. After leaving this life, he began the practice of asceticism. Asceticism is the practice of denying the body and mind the pleasures it desires. The buddha starved himself, owned no possessions, and had no personal connections. He lived this way for years, before finally abandoning it and attaining enlightenment.

Having experienced both extremes, the Buddha realized that neither denial of all pleasure or attainment of great pleasure could satisfy or free a human being. Thus, he introduced ‘The Middle Way’. He determined that a life of moderation, not denial or decadence, could yield freedom...

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Change Takes Time


Awareness and Meditation


Avoid people who mess with your head


Wednesday, 1 February 2017

10 Classic Kids Films That Hold Hidden Wisdom For Adults




  1. The Lion King
  2. Mulan
  3. Pocahontas
  4. Finding Nemo
  5. Mary Poppins
  6. Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
  7. Lilo and Stitch 
  8. The Wizard of Oz
  9. Harriet the Spy
  10. The Sandlot 

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Mudita - An Alternative to Envy

Mudita When we are scrolling through Facebook or Instagram we often feel envy looking at other people’s success or golden mome...